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Saturday, August 8, 2020

A Simple Technique to Help You Toss Away Stress



As of this writing, we are still in the grips of the COVID-19 pandemic. While things seemed to have cooled down somewhat and safety protocols have been put into place in hopes of mitigating the spread of the virus, there are still many factors that are causing us to experience anxiety.

As a hypnotist, I receive several calls every day from people who are simply feeling overwhelmed. From parents worried about their children going back to school, to the furloughed employee going back to work after packing on a few extra pounds, to the casual drinker who realizes they are now drinking two bottles of wine a night, there’s certainly no shortage of stressed-out folks right now.

Fortunately, I understand how stress works; after all, that’s my job! Without getting all bogged down in technical jargon, I’ll just say it’s basic neuroscience. You have a stressful thought and it goes down a neural pathway in your brain, causing a physical-emotional response. Have the same thought again, the neural pathway gets a little more defined. It’s like taking a shortcut through the woods behind your house as a kid; what starts as a simple path becomes a clearly defined trail in no time.

The same thing happens each time you have a different stressful thought. In addition, thanks to something known as Hebb’s Law, the neural pathways of similar stressful thoughts begin to light up at the same time. As the saying goes, “neurons that fire together, wire together.” Ultimately, this means the one tiny chain of neurons created by that one stressful thought can very quickly become a hyper-connected stress superhighway in your brain. Ugh! 

Fortunately, there are a lot of ways to easily stop those stressful thoughts dead in their tracks. One way is to use a simple technique called “Bi-Lateral Stimulation.” I first heard about it in the amazing book The Anti-Anxiety Toolkit by Melissa Tiers (https://www.amazon.com/Anti-Anxiety-Toolkit-Rapid-techniques-rewire/dp/1466451726/).

Just grab any small object you can comfortably hold and toss from one hand to the other (such as a bottle of water, an apple, or your keys). Now think of something that is causing you stress. Notice where you can feel it in your body, and rate that level of stress on a scale of one to ten.

Begin tossing the object back and forth, side to side, from one hand to the other. Make sure you cross the mid-line of your body with each toss, as this will stimulate both hemispheres of your brain. Keeping one hand in front of you while swinging the other hand to the side with each toss will help increase the speed of the effect.

Do this for one minute, then stop and take a deep breath. Scan your body; you may find that the stress has disappeared.  What? How? Simply put, by activating both sides of your brain, you are flooding it with electrical impulses and blood. This causes the stress cluster to dissolve.

Now, think of the same situation again and see if you can bring up any stress. If so, rate it on the same scale. Toss the object from hand to hand for another minute, then scan your body. Repeat until the stress is completely gone.

The great thing about this technique is that you can do it anywhere, anytime – and no one knows you’re doing it! Just remember to move both of your arms and cross your mid-line with each toss.

That’s it for this month. Until next time, keep thinking good thoughts!

By James Scott
Board Certified Hypnotist
Director, Chesapeake Bay Hypnosis

 


James Scott is a world-renowned professional hypnotist, comedy stage hypnotist, mind reader and influence trainer. For more than 25 years, he has been entertaining audiences all over the world with his mesmerizing hypnosis and mind reading shows.

 From corporate boardrooms and hotel ballrooms to private parties and school events, James brings both charm and expertise to bear to captivate, educate and motivate groups all over the world. 

 A 20-year Navy veteran, James began performing in 1993 while stationed in Hawaii. Now retired from military service, he travels the globe demonstrating the awesome power of the human mind -- often with hilarious results!

 Offstage, he has used hypnosis to help countless people overcome fears, bad habits and negative behaviors in order to take back control of their lives. James is a board-certified hypnotist and a certified trainer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.


Thursday, December 20, 2018

Being Present is the Best Present This Holiday Season

Have you ever seen this photograph?


It's been all over Facebook and Instagram and other social media sites and apps.  It's very telling.  What do you see going on here?


Your presence is the greatest gift you can give.

Did you know that years ago, before we had a gadget that was approximately 3.5x6 inches, we actually sat around the table at dinner and enjoyed each others’ company?  Or in the living room, playing board games and laughing over stupid jokes and eating popcorn?  Did you know that we went on walks together and explored the neighborhood or new areas?  Did you know that we soaked in the moment as it happened?



Today, most of us are carried away with recording every moment of every day.  We do that through our smart phones and tablets and computers, and we love technology. Gosh how we love freaking technology!

Didn’t Napoleon’s brother, Kip, sing to his bride a song about loving technology? “But not as much as you, you see! Always and forever!”


But did you know that when you are always recording, you are looking at life through a screen, rather than with your eyes, and your brain doesn’t quite work in the same way?  Instead of watching it happen right before you, with awe and wonder and excitement, and all of those good feelings, you’re watching through a screen as it happens, and thinking, I can’t wait to get this on social media so everyone else can see it! 

And we wonder why we feel like we miss out on certain things.

We had actual conversations, about real things, not about video games and our “friends” on a gaming platform.  We could look at each other in the eye and be close, and whisper secrets.  We could write on notepaper and fold it into an origami triangle and pass it to each other in class.  We did things together.  We could touch, feel, hear, see, smell, FEEL… everything.



Today, we are so intrigued with virtual reality, that anything actually depicting reality is scary.  We’ve found virtual safety being the controller of a video game in our hands, because it’s easier to do that than to call someone on the phone and go out for pizza.

Have you looked around at your family at a gathering, and more than half are checking their Instagram or Facebook, because they want to know how many likes they have from a meme they shared?

Think about it.  Here they are, surrounded by people they love, and who love them, but they aren’t getting the serotonin and dopamine levels from those people.  They are getting them raised by literal strangers.  The moment that they pick up their phone to check the latest scores, or text, or email, they are disconnecting themselves from the people in the room.  Twenty minutes can go by very quickly when lost on a device, and looking up, bleary eyed, notices everyone else has gone out for a lovely walk to look at holiday lights in the neighborhood.



We’re all guilty.  Most of us have these devices, and for our children, we have fun, educational game apps so they can be calm and get lost in a world of virtual reality.  We all do it.  I know I do, but I’m making a change. 

This holiday, I’m going to put my phone in my purse, put my purse in another room, and I’m going to enjoy my family members.  I’m going to talk to them, and laugh, and play, and go for a walk, and help prepare food, and clean up, and laugh some more.  My being present will mean so much to them.  But more than that, my being present will help me feel better.

You see, like many people, I deal with depression.  Well, hello, most artists do, ha!  Remember what I said about serotonin and dopamine levels?  I’m so done with raising those because of sharing silly memes that will quickly get forgotten, or sending a text, or playing a stupid “find the hidden object game” and get to the next level.  I’m going to be purposeful about raising my levels and do it the old fashioned way, and really enjoy my loved ones.



I invite you to join me.  Being present will be the greatest gift you can give your loved ones, and yourself.

PLEASE NOTE:  NONE OF THESE PHOTOGRAPHS ARE ONES THAT I'VE TAKEN.  I DO NOT CLAIM COPYRIGHT.  THEY ARE STOCK IMAGES.